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4th Annual Sex and Consciousness Conference Byron Bay, 1oth, 11th, 12th February 2012

3rd Annual Sex and Consciousness Conference Byron Bay, 11/12/13th Feb. 2011

3rd Annual Sex Conference of Sex and Consciousness:

Byron Bay 11/12/13 Feb. 2011.

Who will be there and what will be happening?
Diane and Kerry Riley from the Australian School of Tantra will be presenting with other Australasia’s leading Sex Educators, Sex Therapists, Tantra Teachers, Intimacy & Relationship Coaches, Counsellors, Sexual Healers & Practitioners.  All speakers  will be showcasing the latest developments and expansions in the Sacred Sex & Consciousness field over 3 exciting days. Special guest Presenter’s from USA, India, Japan & New Zealand are also attending to support this educational & community creating event.

Diane and Kerry will present in Stream 1

Presentation: Insight into the Skills and Practices of a Modern Day Dakini.

Kerry will present case studies of clients and offer insights on different skills and practices a modern day Dakini may add to her work.  This session will be of benefit those who work in the area of sacred sexual education and healing as well as to those in other well being modalities.  His presentation will cover deeper insights into the normal methods of improving ejaculation control and erection difficulty, plus ways of increasing levels of desire and harmonising differences in desire. Also included will be more complicated issues like working with men with prostate cancer and women who have lost desire.

Stream 2

Presentation: “Sex and Pleasure Throughout Life”

Sexual pleasure is a life affirming energy which can help sustain us through the high and lows of daily living throughout our entire lifetime, whether single or in relationship.’  Our experience of sensual and sexual pleasure is influenced by our personal and cultural beliefs, our gender and our past experience. As we live and go through the unfolding of life and the stages of youth, young adulthood and moving to intimate partnerships, marriage, middle age and older age, our sensual and sexual life changes affected by a myriad of factors including emotional relationships, stress, work, raising children, family and our health just to name a few.

Kerry and Diane Riley will share with you some of their insights into building and nurturing sexual/ sensual pleasure throughout these different stages of life drawing from contemporary sex research, the traditions of ecstatic sexuality, and a wealth of practical experience honed from their 30 years of professional experience assisting and teaching thousands of people in the area of contemporary tantra, sex, love and relationships.

Hello and update from the women’s tantra retreat

‘Tantra and the feminine’ at Stanwell Tops. Diane 29th April 2010

What a special ‘Tantra and the feminine’ women’s retreat we enjoyed last weekend at Govinda Valley!

A beautiful environment surround by a valley of the tall green gums close to the ocean.

Thank you all for sharing and participating and contributing to our women’s circle. Already a week has past and I’ve thought of you all this week, perhaps checking in with and reflecting upon your ‘heart’s  intentions’ maybe thinking over the relevance to your life back home or amending it in some way. I’d love to know your thoughts if you would like to tell me.

A heartfelt thank you to Satyo and Ganga, Soelae for assisting me develop and nurture the space as an  invitation to open and flow with your  own ‘feminine’ tantric journey throughout the weekend.

I find there is always so much information and many skills and techniques to share that assist in deepening our experience as authentic and deeply feminine women, strong and sensual yet open and aligned to spirit!!!

I hope you have taken away inspiration and some of these skills to deepen your connection with your goddess of love  and to recognize the immense beauty and depth of you own inner goddess and remember the relevance of keeping her energy and presence with you in daily life. ………………..

Articles and news

The article below, caught my attention, last November in the Sydney Morning Herald.  I’d be interested to hear what you think?
Perhaps we need to ask ourselves what we can do to add to our own erotic intelligence.  Do we take enough initiative to enhance our erotic selves, so that we and our partner (s) !!! – whatever your choice- keep growing in our sense of aliveness when we are together.

How would you rate yourself as a

  • curious and playful lover ?
  • enthusiastic and attentive lover ?
  • generous and sensitive lover ?
  • appreciative lover ?
  • receptive lover ?

Naturally, you’re not monogamous – but you can choose to be

An affair.In reading his article I sensed that for some of us mere humans, that our animal DNA greatly influences our propensity to be wandering or faithful!
David Barash argues that being monogamous is not natural but choice can play a big part.

The article outlines that monogamy is under siege. ‘But not from uncloseted polyamorists, adolescent ”hook-up” advocates, radical feminists, godless communists or some vast homosexual conspiracy. The culprit is our own biology’.

Researchers in animal behaviour have long known that monogamy is uncommon in the natural world, however research indicates that paired life time mating is very rare. How can we navigate sexual trust with partners and spouses? Some say it is a choice others say they have no choice, where does this take us, to some one elses bed or a honoring of the power of the vibe of attraction?
We now know scientifically that social monogamy does not necessarily imply sexual monogamy.

In Heartburn, the lead character complains about her husband’s philandering and gets this response: ”You want monogamy? Marry a swan!” But that wouldn’t do the trick. Scientists have found that even swans play around.

First, there can be no serious debate about whether monogamy is natural for human beings. It isn’t. A Martian zoologist visiting planet Earth would have no doubt: Homo sapiens carry all the evolutionary stigmata of a mildly polygamous mammal with both sexes having a penchant for occasional ”extra-pair copulations”.

But natural isn’t necessarily good. Think about earthquakes, tsunamis, gangrene or pneumonia. Nor is unnatural bad, or beyond human potential. Consider writing a poem, learning a second language or mastering a musical instrument. Learning to play the violin isn’t natural; it takes years of dedication and hard work. A case can be made, in fact, that people are at their most human when they do things that contradict their biology. ”Doing what comes naturally” is easy. It’s what non-human animals do. Perhaps only humans can will themselves to do things that go against their ”nature”.

Aspirants to genuine monogamy must swim upstream against the current of evolutionarily bequeathed inclinations, but there are considerable biological forces supporting such efforts. Some animals are monogamous. California mice (Peromyscus californicus), for example, pair up and remain paired, forsaking all others, largely because of the payoff derived from having two parents to care for offspring. Beavers establish lasting pair-bonds that enable them to co-operate in building a valuable, complex home site. The Malagasy giant jumping rat has evidently made the jump to monogamy because of the predator-fighting benefits thereby provided. And among pygmy marmosets, monogamy gives males unconscious confidence of their paternity, which in turn supports their inclination to be unusually paternal.

And human beings? Our species benefits greatly from bi-parental care. We can profit from shared, reciprocated effort, especially when we’re confident both partners will be around for the long term.

People can rescue monogamy from monotony, imagine the future and viscerally dislike dishonesty. The effect of biology on monogamy becomes complex indeed. Not to mention the adaptive significance of that thing called love.

To be sure, monogamy isn’t easy; nor is it for everyone. But those who claim they’re not cut out for monogamy miss the point: No one is.

No one’s biology precludes monogamy either.

As Jean-Paul Sartre famously advised (albeit in a different context): ”You are free; choose.”

David Barash is psychology professor at the University of Washington. His latest book – written with Judith Eve Lipton – is Strange Bedfellows: The Surprising Connection Between Sex, Evolution and Monogamy.

Sustainable passionate relationships

Kerry and I are fortunate to be going to a fabulous wedding of wonderful friends who have been passionate tantric lovers and partners for over 31 years.

Now this is a couple who are great friends of ours. Having had enjoyed the glow of their passion and witnessing their deep commitment and deeper connection than most couples even dream about.  They have lived for 15 years or more in a caravan, living intimately in a small ( but beautiful homely ) space.  they have practiced tantric principles of the dance of the feminine and masculine and passionate relating.  Kerry and I wish them long and happy life and look forward to continuing our friendship.

Author:  Diane Riley

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